Walking the Line Between Motivation and Discipline
By Dr. Patty Williams on September 26, 2023
Bright Insight Support Network founder and president Dr. Patty Williams is a trauma therapist and coach who specializes in EMDR, ND-Affirmative DBT, and IFS modalities. Through Bright Insight, she works to counsel, coach, and advocate for gifted, twice-exceptional, and neurodivergent persons, along with other marginalized populations.
Walking the Line Between Motivation and Discipline
An awesomely insightful Bloomer asked, “How do you, as an individual, walk the line between motivation and discipline?”
My initial thought was: “There is a line?” after which I also asked them to articulate further as I was intrigued though might not have totally understood their inquiry.
It was suggested that people sometimes experience a burst of enthusiasm when embarking on a new endeavor. However, this initial excitement is often transient. To truly excel, one might need to cultivate the discipline needed for consistent practice. In relation to this, what are my thoughts on how motivation and discipline complement each other?
Hmmmmm…
Motivation is fairly well understood as the psychological impetus that propels individuals to take action, pursue objectives, and adopt particular behaviors. It arises from both internal and external stimuli, spurring people to strive for goals, whether they are personal aspirations, fulfilling desires, or responding to external demands. Intrinsic elements might include personal passions and values, while extrinsic influences may include rewards, acknowledgment, or the drive of societal expectations. Motivation is pivotal in shaping the vigor, orientation, and steadfastness of an individual's actions and endeavors.
Hmmm… steadfastness. This may be where this individual’s idea of discipline came in.
Let’s explore.
Discipline can be defined in many ways. For the sake of this discussion, we are looking at it as a noun that seems to embody the act or art even of self-control and regulation. Disciplined individuals harness their behavior and impulses to achieve specific objectives or uphold order in accordance with established (or chosen) guidelines or standards. This principle applies across diverse aspects of life, spanning personal, professional, educational, and social realms.
In a more comprehensive context, discipline encompasses the capacity to maintain unwavering focus, persevere in the face of challenges, and steadily progress toward desired outcomes. Often requiring temporary sacrifices in pursuit of long-term goals, it demands a resolute commitment and consistent dedication in both actions and decision-making. Discipline potentially stands as a valuable trait that fosters personal growth, paves the path to success, and brings about the realization of one's aspirations.
So what then, is the crossover of these two elements, and is there indeed a line between them? Another hmmm.
I mean, well, the crossover I get.
Really, the intersection of motivation and discipline represents the point where these two psychological aspects converge to influence and support productive actions and behaviors. I think what my Bloomer friend was suggesting is the following:
1. Getting Started: Initially, motivation serves as the driving force that encourages individuals to commence tasks or pursue objectives. It ignites the enthusiasm and eagerness required to initiate actions, whether it's embarking on a new project or commencing a fitness regimen.
2. Sustaining Momentum: Motivation tends to fluctuate over time, but discipline plays a vital role in maintaining consistent effort. It involves adhering to routines, practicing regularly, and persisting in endeavors even when the initial motivation diminishes.
3. Long-Term Achievement: Motivation sets the goal and imparts the desire to achieve it, while discipline ensures a steady, prolonged effort towards that goal. Together, they facilitate meaningful progress and eventual goal attainment.
4. Overcoming Obstacles: Discipline helps individuals endure challenges and setbacks, bolstering their ability to persevere despite adversity, thus preserving motivation.
5. Balancing Immediate vs. Future Rewards: While motivation often leans towards immediate gratification, discipline assists in balancing short-term desires with long-term objectives (I call this playing the long game). It enables individuals to make choices that benefit their future selves, even if it entails postponing immediate pleasures.
In reality, motivation and discipline are interdependent forces. Motivation provides the initial impetus and purpose, while discipline furnishes the structure and consistency necessary to follow through, ultimately leading to personal growth, success, and goal accomplishment, right?
Sure, HOWEVER, I suggest that motivation is also necessary for sustained discipline, not only the other way around. If we are not motivated to sustain our efforts, what is the point of discipline? I mean, certainly, discipline can seem like an honorable trait, however, discipline alone is somewhat boring and abrasive.
Ultimately, considering one’s internal and external locus of control is important here. This is particularly true since it is often the internal that inspires us, and the external that gives us a needed bump at times.
As for a line, I am still not sure if there is one. I guess it could mean that we sometimes dip to one side of the “line” or another and rely more heavily on motivation or discipline… yeah. That’s not so bad.
So maybe walking the line between motivation and discipline is about managing fluctuations.
Maybe it acknowledges that motivation can rise and fall.
Maybe it involves being prepared for moments when motivation dips and relying on discipline to keep you on track during these periods.
It could also be about adapting and adjusting while staying flexible to pivot in your approach. At times, you may need to reignite your motivation or reevaluate your goals, while at other times, you may need to rely more heavily on discipline to push through obstacles.
Hey! I’m not against this.
Lovely! Its nice to hear a different perspective on this and I feel like I have walked away with a more balanced and positive perspective on the relationship between the two